I’ve heard a definition of forgiveness stated this way: forgiveness is “giving up my right to hurt you, for hurting me.” (
reference). When I first read it took me by surprise. When I choose to forgive someone do I really think of it as me giving up my right to hurt them back?? Is that really how we think? Although I’d love to disagree but at some level it’s true. Albeit it may be a very innate thought for some of us, we still have that mentality. Someone has hurt me and the only way to
make things right,is to get even and hurt back. Or we can choose to take the high road and forgive the individual that wronged me, giving up that opportunity to hurt them back. Now we’ve all heard the question and answer “How many times am I to forgive someone?” “Not just seven times, but seventy time seven (meaning always).” That is not what this devotion is about (no need to drive that point into the ground). We all
know we
should always forgive, yet we still have trouble in the execution. But before we dive in head first let’s look at the Scripture.
Matthew 18:21-35 NKJV
21 Then Peter came to Him and said, “Lord, how often shall my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? Up to seven times?” 22 Jesus said to him, “I do not say to you, up to seven times, but up to seventy times seven. 23 Therefore the kingdom of heaven is like a certain king who wanted to settle accounts with his servants. 24 And when he had begun to settle accounts, one was brought to him who owed him ten thousand talents. 25 But as he was not able to pay, his master commanded that he be sold, with his wife and children and all that he had, and that payment be made. 26 The servant therefore fell down before him, saying, ‘Master, have patience with me, and I will pay you all.’ 27 Then the master of that servant was moved with compassion, released him, and forgave him the debt. 28 “But that servant went out and found one of his fellow servants who owed him a hundred denarii; and he laid hands on him and took him by the throat, saying, ‘Pay me what you owe!’ 29 So his fellow servant fell down at his feet and begged him, saying, ‘Have patience with me, and I will pay you all.’ 30 And he would not, but went and threw him into prison till he should pay the debt. 31 So when his fellow servants saw what had been done, they were very grieved, and came and told their master all that had been done. 32 Then his master, after he had called him, said to him, ‘You wicked servant! I forgave you all that debt because you begged me. 33 Should you not also have had compassion on your fellow servant, just as I had pity on you?’ 34 And his master was angry, and delivered him to the torturers until he should pay all that was due to him. 35 “So My heavenly Father also will do to you if each of you, from his heart, does not forgive his brother his trespasses.”
Now I’m going to assume that none of us deal in talents and denarii on a regular bases and may not know the US dollar equivalents. The ten thousand talents owed to the king was worth several million dollars. Whereas the one hundred denarii equates to two thousand dollars, still a large sum of money, but nothing in comparison to several million dollars. How is it then that the king could show forgiveness to the servant for millions of dollars in debt, but that same servant held a grudge and demanded payment over two thousand dollars in debt? Some would argue that millions to the king wasn’t as much as a couple thousand to the servant. But I’d disagree. I think the dollars and cents are important to see how much more difficult forgiveness would’ve been for the king versus the servant. But regardless, I don’t think the dollar figure was the key to forgiveness.
What is the main difference between the king and the servant? Don’t think of social status, power, etc. Just consider their responses. At first the king had the same response as the servant. But what changed? Look back at verse 27: “Then the master of that servant was moved with compassion, released him, and forgave him the debt.” The key to forgiveness is
compassion. It’s because of the king’s compassion that he forwent his “right” to get even or hurt the servant. You’d think the compassion the king showed the servant would translate and the servant would then also show compassion in the same way to his fellow servant. Sadly that’s not always the case, as is proven in this example. Because of how the servant treated his fellow servant, the king withdrew his compassion, Verse 32-34:
“Then his master, after he had called him, said to him, ‘You wicked servant! I forgave you all that debt because you begged me. Should you not also have had compassion on your fellow servant, just as I had pity on you?’ And his master was angry, and delivered him to the torturers until he should pay all that was due to him.” If someone forgives you, remember those who have wronged you…shouldn’t you forgive them as well?
We should always forgive others. In order to do that we must have compassion for them and their situation. Compassion is something that comes from the Lord, and something that we can only truly understand once we’ve entered into a relationship with Him.
Bro. Austin Chapman is the Youth Minister
of Inflamed Church Ministries.